Hi there and Welcome! Today I’m going to talk to you about the giving away of the bride.
This ritual has a long history.
In Roman times, for example, it was the custom for a young woman to be under the authority and protection of the man who was seen as the head of her household – usually her father or elder brother.
When she married, that responsibility passed to her husband.
This was the origin of the “Giving away” ceremony.
Today’s young women (especially) don’t see themselves as some kind of chattel to be bartered over but interestingly many couples still like to retain this ancient custom, albeit with a new cultural meaning.
It can still be a really lovely way to acknowledge a special father-daughter relationship.
Dad’s love it; and let’s face it, it gives them something to do on the day!!
Nah seriously, it is one of the most poignant moments of the ceremony.
Plus, not all households are the same as they were back then, so sometimes it’s the mum who does the honours.
Some brides choose to have both their mum and dad walk them down the aisle. This is also a beautiful idea but just make sure the aisle is wide enough and they are not going to look cramped. There are a couple of ways around this though if that’s the case.
Sometimes, there IS no mum and dad because the couple are older.
Or it’s a second marriage, and there are children involved, and so it seems more appropriate – and fun – to have them be the ones to give their “blessing” to the marriage.
Dads can still be included though – they’re not mutually exclusive in this scenario.
Everyone can “give them away”! This can be a really fun moment when you ask the guests to show their support of the couple and then add in a cheeky pledge to drink all their booze and make the most of it cos’ it’s so and so’s shout – ALL NIGHT!! All their mates LOVE this bit!!
OR no-one can give anyone away. The bride can still walk down the aisle with a support person and at the end of the aisle, they simply give her a kiss, perhaps shake the groom’s hand, and go and sit down.
And, of course, like my niece, the bride can walk in alone – a real statement of empowerment – that way there is no formal giving away of the bride.
And let’s not forget the groom! He can have his own processional – with his band of merry men.
This can be an awesome moment too, as most blokes who opt for this, are usually not the shy type and they can absolutely “own it”!!
And the last one that I can think of is that they both walk in together – a team, united!
Oh, and a very popular one for informal weddings is that there is no processional (the walk-in) because the couple are already in situ ready to rock and roll.
There are probably others that I haven’t covered, but you get the gist – there are no formal rules about this – it is totally up to you to put your own footprint on this – and any other part of the wedding (except the legal bits that are sacrosanct) – and make it uniquely yours.
I hope this has helped demystify some aspects of the giving away ritual.
Pop any questions or comments below and I’ll do my best to answer them.
Take care now and bye for now